About this blog (updated 2019)

This blog has retired as of September 2019. Please go to https://dearwalden.wordpress.com/ to visit my new blog, Dear Walden.

I am 36, female. I grew up in Singapore and speaks English, Mandarin and Cantonese. I live in Hong Kong but it is my dream to move to Australia. I started this blog to record my journey and progress. You’ll also find pictures of my travels and cats. I also blog about autism because I am autistic and I’d like to contribute my part to raising awareness and understanding of autism. However, these are my own personal views and do not represent the entire autism community which is made up of unique and diverse individuals.

You may have heard of autism and know that people with autism struggle with social communication. Another characteristic of autism, which is less likely to be mentioned but no less important, is sensory sensitivity. My heightened sensitivity especially to sounds has restricted my capacity to interact. If you think I could be desensitised by exposing myself to prolonged period of noise, you are mistaken. I am already living in one of the world’s most densely populated city: overwhelmed by the sounds of busy packed streets, the incessant chatter and hordes of traffic, bombarding my senses from all directions; people oblivious to the concept of personal space, and noises that I can’t block out. It is a struggle to navigate the narrow streets without coming into physical contact with other pedestrians. The city is slowly draining my brain and mind. Even the country parks are becoming more and more populated. In short, I am desperate to get out.

About my dream

I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.” Henry Thoreau, Walden: Life in the Woods

Finding out I am autistic has prompted me to re-evaluate my life and career choices. I was a city girl by default but it doesn’t have to remain this way. I dream of moving to Australia or somewhere where I could enjoy space and solitude. Where I used to think that life beyond the city seems unimaginable (having been born and live in a small city/country), life seems bigger in Australia. I am attracted to the country’s vast open spaces and skies that stretch as far as the eyes can see. I love the views of the countryside, visiting quaint historic towns and villages, admiring the vistas and rolling plains, taking a stroll in the woods and to be embraced by nature. My Walden is a place that affords a comfortable amount of space for living, for walking, for socialising, for solitude. I have no desire to live in the city and if I do have the chance to move to Australia, it is the suburbs and rural areas I am interested in. Finding employment is however a major hurdle because I’m not sure which jobs would be suitable for me with my qualifications (I have a background in law but I’m not a qualified lawyer). I am therefore considering to apply for a graduate research program on the topic of autism and mental health, in the hope to add a positive contribution to autism research.

When I first started this blog 2 years ago, I was hoping for someone to lend a hand to help make my dream comes true. A year after, I realised that was wishful thinking and only I can save myself. This blog is my personal journal, my self-rescue and self-help guide that would hopefully leads me to my Walden.

I learned this, at least, by my experiment: that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”     Henry David Thoreau, Walden: Life in the Woods

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26 thoughts on “About this blog (updated 2019)

  1. I really enjoyed reading your blog, the explanations of your thoughts and dreams, and the photography. Any progress with coming to live in Australia? Best wishes, Tony (Attwood)

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    1. Thanks Professor Attwood! I’m thrilled you are reading it, that really makes my day. This is all raw feelings which makes me nervous writing about it. No progress yet, but I figure this blog is the only way to keep my dreams alive. Thanks so much for dropping by.

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  2. Wow! 😊 Your background is amazing and your dream is fascinating! (I’m with you; my dreams are sometimes quite vivid–they used to be even more so–and I used to like to try to analyze them 😉).

    Thank you so much for following my The Silent Wave blog! Following yours as well ❤️

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    1. Thanks for dropping by. I think you have a strong analytical mind to write such insightful blog posts. I wish I am as articulate and structured as you are. I tend to over-analyze but ended up with jumbled thoughts and struggle to find the right words, hence this blog might have been a bad move. Still, I started it in a desperate attempt to discipline myself. I am deeply humbled that you took the time to read my blog and for your kind words. Thanks so much!

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  3. Hi DW,
    Thanks for stopping by…
    I absolutely agree, if you’ve met one Aspie, you’ve met one Aspie…
    Hope your plans develop as you dream, if not yet, well keep dreaming 🙂
    Will be following 🙂

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    1. Hi Liberty of Thinking,
      Thanks for your encouragement! I must first apologise that I don’t write as good as other bloggers. The primary reason I’m writing is to keep a record and as a reminder not to give up yet! I share your view on the Autism/Asperger differentiation and will definitely re-visit your blog again soon! Thanks again for following 😊

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      1. My pleasure 🙂
        Without any intention to patronise, please don’t apologise of not “writing as good as other bloggers”. I consider blogging as a public display of one’s uniqueness, whose value should be set by no other than themselves, first of all for themselves. And uniqueness has no comparison. When I click send/update, I do so because I believe my thoughts best represent my best potential for the moment, and that’s enough for me.
        Best wishes 🙂

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  4. Thank you for visiting my blog, I see we have so much in common mydreamwalden.
    I have a mild form of Temporal Lobe epilepsy and now that I have learned to manage my personality traits (particularly with travel and writing) I feel very blessed to be me. After a lot of research I found out that Autism is a similar condition.

    I am so glad to see that your dream has come true, to live in Australia is an absolute blessing.
    I arrived here thirty years ago. If you have never visited Perth, you definitely should, if you’re looking for absolutely beautiful remote regions you would love our outback, particularly a highlight for me was when we spent 3 months in the Kimberley’s. We have such a diverse magnificent country out there.
    I must admit after all of our travels, The Bungle Bungles was a standout for me and my family,
    You should put this on your next #WishList.
    Anyway I just wanted to pop by and say hello, it is so good to know that we are like minded friends.
    Looking forward to your next adventures. By the way, we are planning a new trip in May to our next dream destination, Kakadu National Park. Stay tuned if you would like to be tempted.

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    1. Hi vhealing, thank you so much for your message. I’m sorry it’s taking a long time for me to reply. I was back in Singapore for a few days as my mum had a cataract surgery and I wanted to wait till my brain has settled down to write back to you. I haven’t heard about Temporal Lobe epilepsy before reading your blog so thank you for raising my awareness of this condition, it’s great that we are all doing our bit to increase our understanding of human diversity.
      I’m still working on my dream of moving to Australia, it has not come true yet. I’d love to visit the outback. I remembered visiting Perth as a kid with my family and we stayed a few nights at a farm. It was that experience that made me yearn for a different kind of lifestyle. I’d love to do the Cape to Cape Track someday.
      To be honest, I don’t quite know how to go about to fulfill my dream. It’s such a humongous task, I don’t quite know where and how to proceed, I’m actually feeling a bit helpless. In the meantime, I’ll stay tuned to your adventures and let my spirits follow you 🙂
      Take care and have a great adventure!


  5. Hello, I just found your blog and I love your blog posts – I am a 28 year old late diagnosed autistic female, and so much of what you say also resonates with me. I come from an Asian (Sri lankan) background and when growing up – the only thing that mattered was being compared to others and following the mainstream. There was so much competition and I tried to fit myself into that world. I became a corporate accountant and ended up very unwell emotionally and physically. I also always thought I was a city girl – but I’m not really, I actually love open spaces and quiet. I live in London which is full of noise and crowds and it’s really hard. It’s only after being diagnosed with autism that I am truly finding myself, and finding out about others with autism too. I look forward to reading more of your posts!

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    1. Hi Rosa, thanks for dropping by to say hi and for taking the time to write such a heartfelt message. I studied in London for 3 years but I didn’t spend a lot of time exploring the city. Commuting in the tube made me anxious and I have limited tolerance with crowds. Same as you, I wasn’t diagnosed until my late 20s so I didn’t realise what I was dealing with at that time. I did however have fond memories of visiting the Senate House library and walking past Russell Square park. Before I left London, I finally made an effort to go out a bit more and I remembered taking a nice river walk to Camden market. Things may have changed as I’m talking about 20 years ago lol. I enjoyed reading your posts and I’m glad to see you embracing your autism quirkiness. Thanks again for your lovely note and we’ll catch up again soon! Cheers ❤

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      1. I just finished an atmospheric mystery set in Australia written by Jane Harper called, “The Dry”, now I’m about to start her second book…do check out Miriam’s Australian blog, “Out and About”, her writing is lovely as well! Enjoy your holiday!

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  6. I sympathize and understand you perfectly. My son also has hypersensitivity. On a trip to New York, he started crying and clogging his ears with his hands after a walk on 5th Avenue. “I want to leave this place” He said, crying. “I will go crazy otherwise.” He was only 7 years old at the time. Today (7 years later), he has developed coping strategies, but this is very exhausting for him and he prefers quiet places where the noise is minimal and interactions less numerous. I was about to say to you “Good luck with your dreams” then I noticed that you wrote this post 2 years ago. Did your dream came true yet? Fingers crossed.

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    1. Thank you, Dominique! I love the experience you shared, hopefully more people would understand the environmental impact on the lives of those who are hypersensitive. I really envy people who live in countries with a variety of urban, suburban and rural areas. You would have thought that things would change over a span of 2 years but I’m sorry to disappoint. My dream is still a work in progress. I don’t even know how to proceed or plan. How do I find work? Do I have the financial means to support myself? etc etc. I don’t know if it will ever come true. Sometimes, I don’t know how to carry on but blogging has however introduced me to a community of friends like you who are supportive and understanding of my dream and who make my life better ❤️
      Thanks so much for dropping by😊

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      1. I think you must continue to believe that your dreams can come true. Dreams and hope are precious and allow us to move forward. Some ideas come to mind and if I was in your shoes it is probably what I would do. First, I would search the Web to find companies in your area that also have branches in Australia. You could approach them and present them your resume. I read that you had a university education in law and that you speak several languages. These are assets that will be valuable in your search for a job abroad and in the application for a work visa. You could also call on a head hunter to find this desired job in Australia. Also make as many contacts as possible with bloggers living in Au. They could give you practical advices about life there and the organizations that could help you realize your dream. Another possibility is to apply for a degree in a university in Australia. This would allow you to live there for a while and see if the place really matches your expectations. Scholarships are sometimes available. That’s what comes to mind spontaneously. Maybe these ideas are not all applicable to you but it’s a starting point … Good luck!

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  7. I’ve just been enjoying your bird posts. 🙂 I hope you eventually fulfill your dream of living in Australia. I don’t have autism but find too much noise and bustle impossible to cope with and was born and brought up in a noisy city and, when I had to the chance to leave and move to a rural area of the UK (Wales) I jumped at it. I don’t know if you already follow her or know her blog, but you might like to talk to Mabel Kwong on her blog – she lives in Australia (was brought up there, I think) but is from a Chinese background. Her blog compares the two cultures and is very interesting. Perhaps she could think of a way you could get to Australia? She’s very knowledgeable (and nice.) This is her blog: https://mabelkwong.com/

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  8. The way that I see it, very few of our journeys are actually taken alone. We just have to figure out who it is that is walking beside us. That took me fifty years, so I hope your journey is rather faster 🙂 🙂

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