I’m not anti-social, I’m selectively social

Sociable is not a word I would use to describe myself. It is a word I regard with distaste but I have a change of mind recently, after a visit to the Soi Dog Foundation in Phuket last month.  When we arrived at the shelter, there was 45 minutes till their next scheduled guided tour. While enquiring what we could do at the meantime, the staff at the shelter asked,

“Are you up for socialising with the cats?”

Upon hearing this, I had a wide grin on my face and replied, “Of course, this is the reason I’m here.” For once, the word socialising sounds like music to my ears. The guy at the shelter has given me a new perspective. I’ve always thought of myself as asocial, if not anti-social, but whoever said you must only socialise with your own kind? I love socialising, I’m just particularly selective about whom I socialise with. I’m not anti-social, I’m selectively social. 🙂 😺

I’m a party animal!

Excuse me, you’re standing too close!


Come join the party!

10 thoughts on “I’m not anti-social, I’m selectively social

    1. Thanks Kellie. I hated the word ‘socialise’ but I like how that person puts it which makes me see the word in a new light. I must remember this too and try to apply this technique of reframing / creating new association whenever I can.


  1. An excellent post Dream, strangely enough l have a slogan on a bag of with this sentiment and another that says ‘being social is overrated’. I recently signed up for some voluntary work and they asked me if l had a preference and l said “YES, no people is way better for me thanks. Animals are way better at socialising than society is – so give me animals everyday, anyday above people and l am a happy man indeed!”

    “Do you have a problem with people and socialising?”

    “Oh yes, don’t you? Be honest if you had a choice would you really want to mix with the bull that spouts out of most people daily in order for them to simply get on this with so call façade?”

    But it’s true, people are just too tiring to keep up with, with an animal you know where you stand, you know how to be. An animals’ expectations of you is rawer and more direct”

    Again excellent post.

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    1. Thanks Rory, it’s not strange at all, at least not here, I think many of us here would agree that socialising is overrated. I had people asking me don’t I feel bored spending most of my time alone at home? I think I gave them a strange look that says “why should I”? I just don’t understand the common people and their obsession with socialising.

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  2. It was lovely to see your visit with all the cats. I wish I could do something like that at our pet shelter. I shall have to ask next time I have a minute to visit there. I am beginning to wonder if I’m antisocial or just prefer the company of my shorkies and hubby to most people. 😉

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  3. Yes! I am constantly talking to, and playing with, my dogs and cats. When I go out I am drawn to the animals, too. I can even stand the crowds of people (a real challenge for me) if there are animals to visit with.

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    1. Hi Walkinfaith! I agree, don’t even think of inviting me to a party or gathering of people. On the other hand, I find it hard to resist an invitation if I know there will be cat(s), in fact, I might even take the initiative and ask if I could drop by to play with the animals 🙂
      Thanks for reading


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