Undone. Unfinished. Incomplete.

This post is just going to sound like its title: undone, unfinished, incomplete.


I have about 30 27 unwritten drafts.


I buy books which I don’t have time to read.


I still have a dream, incomplete. Far from complete.

WHAT ARE YOUR EXCUSES? (Go away, you are interrupting!)

These are my reasons:

Executive functioning

My nemesis is sneering the very same time I mentioned executive function. It has been a while since she showed up in my posts. I have been putting off writing this post in part because I know she would pop up in a topic like this. She is a firm believer of if there’s a will, there’s a way and if you haven’t succeeded, you are not trying hard enough. (And she just made me type this to prove that she is right and I’m doing as told so she will leave me alone to write this in peace !!!)

Executive functioning 

(Hey you! Yes, the one sniggering in the background! Since you aren’t going away, I shall address this directly to you.) Believe it or not, research has shown that individuals with Asperger have impaired executive function. Executive function includes skills such as organizational and planning abilities; working memory; task shifting and flexibility; time management and prioritising. Individuals with autism tend to experience difficulty with tasks which require them to problem-solve by planning before acting and to identify the subgoals needed to reach an end goal. Another feature of impaired executive function is difficulty switching attention from one task to another. The person with Asperger usually has considerable problems switching thoughts to a new activity until there has been closure.

(References: Tony Attwood, The Complete Guide to Asperger’s Syndrome; McPartland, Klin & Volkmar (eds.) Asperger Syndrome: Assessing and Treating High-Functioning Autism Spectrum Disorders)


“I love sleep. My life has the tendency to fall apart when I’m awake, you know?” Ernest Hemingway

Leaving executive function aside, I’m really tired physically, emotionally, mentally. Just the thought of all the work, personal and household chores that has to be done is exhausting. I’ve been consumed by fatigue since my graduate days. Dealing with a mental health issue is a constant struggle, it is exhausting, it eats away your interests and passion, and it feeds on your soul and mind, then slowly into your body and manifests itself physically.

Depresso & Anxietea (with unlimited refill)

It’s a misconception that depression is all about insomnia, it could be hypersomnia. Always tired, this is who I’m, even though I’ve had 8 hours of sleep, or more. Having said that, I seldom sleep through the whole night, I get woken up by my neighbours’ foot-steps in the morning and I dream in my sleep, nothing horrifying, but anxiety-inducing dreams where I’m always running late on time, running about frantically or packing in the last minute. In fact, when I was a child, I always had a recurring dream of pushing a shopping cart in what seemed to be like a dark, abandoned store. The dream would begin with me walking slowly while pushing a cart. My pace increased faster and faster as I moved down the aisle to avoid the goods that were falling from the shelves, eventually I started to run until I woke up. Even stranger, the dream would reappear in my head during the day time as racing thoughts. I stop having that dream when I reached adolescence but it was such a strange experience it became stuck in my mind.


I’m too tired to even elaborate on the association of fatigue and autism. There is a great post about it here.

And how can you not mention LAZINESS and LACK OF WILL!

Alright, I’m just going to include for the sake of inclusiveness, laziness. But lack of will? Do I not have a strong motivation to work harder? If the prospect of a better environment doesn’t motivate me, I don’t know what else will.

I have a dream that is too big for a mind that is too tired.



14 thoughts on “Undone. Unfinished. Incomplete.

  1. That first step is always the hardest! I have clothes that need to be washed, a sink full of dirty dishes and general tidying that needs to be done. But (here come the excuses) Ben was awake all night so I’m tired, I need to conserve my energy for the Green Day concert tomorrow, it’s not fair to do it by myself, my daughters should help….
    You are definitely not alone! Let’s forgive ourselves and keep trying to do what we can, when we can👍💝

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    1. Thanks Ben’s Grandma!
      I come across many high achievers in my line of work and I know people who hold multiple jobs, makes me wonder where they get their energy from and it makes me ashamed when I look at myself but Keep Trying I will, maybe after my sleep 😴 😂

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      1. It’s never too late to start. I was a seriously co-dependant, passive-aggressive, generally unhappy person for a lot of years. Learning to love yourself and BE yourself is a process and a journey. I’m happy that you’re taking the first steps already!👏😍 🌹💗

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    2. Opps, I’m embarrassed to say I’ve not heard of Green Day but after listening to them as I’m typing now, yes I’ve definitely heard their music before, I just wasn’t aware who sang it… (I need an embarrassed emoji)
      Enjoy the concert, Grandma! I’m getting excited for you!!!

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  2. Right, DW, first of all I may sound bold, since my “left shoulder granma”, [(not King Ben’s, which is a sweat heart), but mine, which is a right b**** but we live in a love-hate symbiotic relationship], is having a pity party after our last less than rosy argument…
    So, as I said, my OCD type of Executive (mal)functioning won’t let me live till I finish what I started, the problem being with IF I’d ever start it…
    And I also have an unlimited supply of Depresso and Anxietea, but I would strongly caution you against ever calling yourself “lazy” and “lacking will”, since (un)fortunately your mind cannot operate without a perfect alignment of premises for the logical processing of your wilful actions, decisions of the will which would be non-lazy must have first have a very clear reason.
    Now on this planet, there isn’t much for us to base a logical decision prior to a rationally justified action.
    You see, I figured out long ago, that my real life is in my unseen mind, and I don’t ever feel any desire to make it visible, except for reasons having to do with my unwanted exile here…
    So one of the few reasons I’m still looking up, is to see the ship which should arrive any time now, or looking around for the slightest sign of an opening through the veil separating me from my real plane of existence. Oh, and I’m still looking for the “subtle knife” (His Dark Materials 🗡), but still haven’t found it.
    If you do, would you please let me know, and don’t leave me here 🖖👽
    Friendly advice, in your place, I’d delete all post projects, except the ONE, which I’d perfect, post, and start with a clean slate. Ta-dah 🤓

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    1. Wow, that is a lot to take in for me. Thank you for your enlightening words of wisdom! I hope I haven’t missed the ship whilst in my sleep dreaming away, that explains why I was always in a hurry and packing 😂
      Great advice, I shall keep a lookout for the signs 🌌

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      1. Morning DW, worry not the ship hasn’t come yet, I haven’t found the portal, I’m much better today than yesterday, but I need to crack on with my next exam due in 2 weeks…
        So tea/xylitol/lactose free cream/milk flowing, I shall continue enlightening myself, until I become self-illuminating and able to disconnect from the electricity supply grid, which is very economic 🤓

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